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GOOD THINGS IN LIFE
We have a topic for the sad things happening in life, but nothing for the good! That is definitely unhealthy! So let's share our accomplishments (Maybe we have this already. I dunno! I go to the same threads over and over!)
Ayastia
6
Re: Quotes & Misquotes: Falling Off of Bridges
(Market): Jhin says, "The Mejevsavenel's Finest now open in Esterport (v5498)."
(Market): You say, "The Red Lion in Enorian (v56480), we have everything. Including a name you can pronounce!"
(Market): Didi says, "Roar."
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "Muaha."
(Tells): "Hehe," you tell Jhin.
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "// HELP MEJEVSAVENEL."
(Tells): "((I just painstakingly typed that and nothing shows up, and then copied and pasted it and nothing shows up.))" you tell Jhin.
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "//help mejevsavelnel."
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "//help mejevsavelnel."
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "// oops meant that once."
(Tells): "((I see...I think I'll stick with colors and animals.))" you tell Jhin.
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "// lol."
(Market): You say, "The Red Lion in Enorian (v56480), we have everything. Including a name you can pronounce!"
(Market): Didi says, "Roar."
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "Muaha."
(Tells): "Hehe," you tell Jhin.
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "// HELP MEJEVSAVENEL."
(Tells): "((I just painstakingly typed that and nothing shows up, and then copied and pasted it and nothing shows up.))" you tell Jhin.
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "//help mejevsavelnel."
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "//help mejevsavelnel."
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "// oops meant that once."
(Tells): "((I see...I think I'll stick with colors and animals.))" you tell Jhin.
(Tells): Jhin, The Titan tells you, "// lol."
Aeryx
6
Announce post #3196: Room Credits
7/14/2021 at 20:26
Tiur, the Gnosis
Everyone
Room Credits
The time has come.
Rooms in castles are now built with roomcredits.
BUILDING ROOMCREDITS
- See how many you have.
BUILDING ROOMCREDITS BUY <#>
- Purchase room credits with stone. 2:1.
The milestone wares shop has been updated to sell roomcredits for platinum keystones. 1:1.
-T
PS I -told- you all there was a reason for platinum keystones.
Penned by my hand on Quensday, the 4th of Midsummer, in the year 496 MA.
Tiur, the Gnosis
Everyone
Room Credits
The time has come.
Rooms in castles are now built with roomcredits.
BUILDING ROOMCREDITS
- See how many you have.
BUILDING ROOMCREDITS BUY <#>
- Purchase room credits with stone. 2:1.
The milestone wares shop has been updated to sell roomcredits for platinum keystones. 1:1.
-T
PS I -told- you all there was a reason for platinum keystones.
Penned by my hand on Quensday, the 4th of Midsummer, in the year 496 MA.
Re: GOOD THINGS IN LIFE
For the first time in my life, I have a doctor who listens to me. She got me in contact with both a therapist and a dietist, who actually listens to me. The therapist got me in contact with a dentist that actually listens to me and my dietist has put me in contact with a physical therapist that I will meet in late August, who hopefully listens to me. I am so used to not being heard, this is just all so surreal. Even if I know I have a lot of work ahead of me to become the person I want to be, inside and out, I am at least well on my way.
Konnorn
12
Re: GOOD THINGS IN LIFE
Two good things that take the bad things that preceded them to really appreciate. Going to spoil the bad to stay with the theme of the thread.
As a result, a new chapter is starting, and as the grieving period fades (minus the occasional triggers that set me off, but those will ease up), I'm starting to realize the implications of that. We can make plans with friends because we're able to leave our house now. My husband and I went out for dinner together, just the two of us the other night after work, which we haven't gotten to do in a very long time.
Anxiety about medications, care routines, and flurries of hospice nurses and staff coming in and out of my house every day multiple times a day are gone. It's like I've been given a blank slate after four and a half years to put myself first for a change, and do things for me and my future, and I'm very much not used to that.
Things that I couldn't devote the headspace to before because I was preoccupied with more important things now have some room to breathe, and it's empowering.
Which leads us to #2:
While I need my job to pay my bills right now, I'm not locked into it anymore. My boss's actions were the straw that broke the camel's back. I've got all my paperwork filed with the state, and will have my website done in about two weeks. After a combined 8ish years in the industry getting really good at what I do, and essentially running a digital marketing agency on my own for the past 4, I'm going to start my own and work for myself.
My goal is to build up my client roster working nights and weekends until I'm making what I do at my current job (lol, shouldn't be hard) and then transition to working full time for myself. Hopefully by the end of this year.
I'm excited. It feels like a new chapter, and I am so so ready for it after all of the heavy this year brought.
My grandmother passed two weeks ago yesterday. As some of you probably know, I took care of her for four and a half years after moving her in with me. The last month and a half of it was the worst and hardest point of my life to date.
She was completely bedbound, and for the last three weeks, she essentially wasn't even there. You couldn't have a conversation with her. I fed her, changed her diapers, cleaned her, everything, every single day. She slipped into a coma for four days before passing, and every single task I had to do for her filled me with anxiety because I didn't know if she'd still be there when I went into her room next.
I was holding her hand when she passed.
She was completely bedbound, and for the last three weeks, she essentially wasn't even there. You couldn't have a conversation with her. I fed her, changed her diapers, cleaned her, everything, every single day. She slipped into a coma for four days before passing, and every single task I had to do for her filled me with anxiety because I didn't know if she'd still be there when I went into her room next.
I was holding her hand when she passed.
As a result, a new chapter is starting, and as the grieving period fades (minus the occasional triggers that set me off, but those will ease up), I'm starting to realize the implications of that. We can make plans with friends because we're able to leave our house now. My husband and I went out for dinner together, just the two of us the other night after work, which we haven't gotten to do in a very long time.
Anxiety about medications, care routines, and flurries of hospice nurses and staff coming in and out of my house every day multiple times a day are gone. It's like I've been given a blank slate after four and a half years to put myself first for a change, and do things for me and my future, and I'm very much not used to that.
Things that I couldn't devote the headspace to before because I was preoccupied with more important things now have some room to breathe, and it's empowering.
Which leads us to #2:
Last week was the first week this year that I've gotten to work without interruption from hospice staff. Prior to grandma's passing I'd work 10ish hours a day, skip lunch, and spend about two hours dealing with hospice and helping - still got my 8 hours a day in, and often more than that. Comfortably hitting that full time mark, plus some.
I had the most productive week work-wise I'd had all year, and probably some time before that too. Two days I worked for 12 hours, and the rest of the days I worked for 10 with a 20-minute lunch break each day. I killed it. This felt like a massive accomplishment considering the week before, and just realistically speaking knowing how long some of the stuff takes to do. Clients were thrilled, and so was I.
Boss's response was to tell me I need to start working weekends, which when math'd out would put me at making a little over minimum wage for a job I've been working at for five and a half years. Haven't had a raise in the past two years, Christmas bonus was cut 90% the past two years in a row, usually don't take more than 4 days off a year, and have been paid below market demand since the day I got the job. I needed the flexibility it offered to take care of my grandma though, and so I was effectively locked in.
Since it's just my boss and I at the job, tackling issues like the above is super complicated.
I had the most productive week work-wise I'd had all year, and probably some time before that too. Two days I worked for 12 hours, and the rest of the days I worked for 10 with a 20-minute lunch break each day. I killed it. This felt like a massive accomplishment considering the week before, and just realistically speaking knowing how long some of the stuff takes to do. Clients were thrilled, and so was I.
Boss's response was to tell me I need to start working weekends, which when math'd out would put me at making a little over minimum wage for a job I've been working at for five and a half years. Haven't had a raise in the past two years, Christmas bonus was cut 90% the past two years in a row, usually don't take more than 4 days off a year, and have been paid below market demand since the day I got the job. I needed the flexibility it offered to take care of my grandma though, and so I was effectively locked in.
Since it's just my boss and I at the job, tackling issues like the above is super complicated.
While I need my job to pay my bills right now, I'm not locked into it anymore. My boss's actions were the straw that broke the camel's back. I've got all my paperwork filed with the state, and will have my website done in about two weeks. After a combined 8ish years in the industry getting really good at what I do, and essentially running a digital marketing agency on my own for the past 4, I'm going to start my own and work for myself.
My goal is to build up my client roster working nights and weekends until I'm making what I do at my current job (lol, shouldn't be hard) and then transition to working full time for myself. Hopefully by the end of this year.
I'm excited. It feels like a new chapter, and I am so so ready for it after all of the heavy this year brought.
Brax
15
Re: GOOD THINGS IN LIFE
Oh I'm into this. I switched medications back in April or whatever and it was an extremely rough transition, but I'm much happier and doing a lot better on this particular set of stuff. My career has been doin alright too, and I've made a lot of strides in things that were previously giving me a lot of trouble. Also my kid is 90% potty trained. And I just ate a salad.
I also found a beard/face care routine that ended what was essentially years of not being able to grow any pronounced facial hair due to rashiness and skin buildup, and it's made my life a ton better. Oh and I lost four pounds on vacation just from swimming! Oh and I have a RTX 3090 that I got below the market cost, which means the glass in Control is Actually Reflective! Most of my plants I planted outside in pots didn't die!
Gosh I have a lot of great stuff going on atm that it's literally hard to write it all.
Anyway this thread idea is Good.
I also found a beard/face care routine that ended what was essentially years of not being able to grow any pronounced facial hair due to rashiness and skin buildup, and it's made my life a ton better. Oh and I lost four pounds on vacation just from swimming! Oh and I have a RTX 3090 that I got below the market cost, which means the glass in Control is Actually Reflective! Most of my plants I planted outside in pots didn't die!
Gosh I have a lot of great stuff going on atm that it's literally hard to write it all.
Anyway this thread idea is Good.
Tetchta
9
Re: GOOD THINGS IN LIFE
As for me, I finally took a job today that is aimed more at a career than just another dead-end job that I have had for the last... 15ish years. I was hired today to a marketing department. It's something I have had an interest in for a while now, was thinking of going to school for it. And now I have my foot in the door.
Ayastia
10
Re: GOOD THINGS IN LIFE
A fairly new friend sent me a care package from Australia and it's full of All The Snacks I Can't Get Here.
Bliss.
Bliss.
Zeheia
13
Re: I think we should be talking more about how we treat each other and what's going on in the community
I would agree with that chart, though I do think we're missing an important thing:
The toxicity doesn't go away. Just because I initially made a shadow character, got called the f slur in web and immediately left to make a new, spirit character doesn't mean the toxicity vanished. It did from MY specific sphere, but I know that that language continued for some time after I left. That toxicity is still going to exist, it's just going to exist with people who are a okay with it.
But we play a social game, so it will inevitably bloom out into the rest of the game. It IS the job of admin to see to those things but, and I really hate to say it, historically, they haven't. I hope it's gotten better! I hope admin are shutting that stuff down when they see it, but based on some of the recent threads, it doesn't really seem like it has.
The toxicity doesn't go away. Just because I initially made a shadow character, got called the f slur in web and immediately left to make a new, spirit character doesn't mean the toxicity vanished. It did from MY specific sphere, but I know that that language continued for some time after I left. That toxicity is still going to exist, it's just going to exist with people who are a okay with it.
But we play a social game, so it will inevitably bloom out into the rest of the game. It IS the job of admin to see to those things but, and I really hate to say it, historically, they haven't. I hope it's gotten better! I hope admin are shutting that stuff down when they see it, but based on some of the recent threads, it doesn't really seem like it has.
Rasani
6
Re: RL Struggles, Strife, and Sadnesses
After 25+ years of smoking I have finally taken proper steps to quit as of last week
It is kicking my butt. Stabilizing myself after years of an added chemical in my system to slowly being without is a pain mentally and physically. I know in the long run it is a good thing. So apologies if I come off really bad recently to anyone.
It is kicking my butt. Stabilizing myself after years of an added chemical in my system to slowly being without is a pain mentally and physically. I know in the long run it is a good thing. So apologies if I come off really bad recently to anyone.
Damonicus
10