What do you think of the gender binary?

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  • When I am not posting from my phone I will dig up my research notes as well as the research done by an anthropologist I've known for years. If they are having trouble coming up with examples they are not trying very hard or are suffering from cultural bias.
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  • I thought I'd chime in on this. For a long time, at least until I was in my early 20s I had a very binary point of view on gender. You were either male of female and it was based on how I perceived the person.

    This was sort of an oddity for me, because at the time I had a very binary understanding of sexuality as well, either you liked men or women, and there wasn't much room for an in-between in my head. At the time I was self-identifying as a lesbian, had no interest in men, and didn't understand how there could be shades of gray in between.

    I have a boyfriend now, and throughout the course of my adult life, have begun to understand that there are no absolutes in these things. If I could take a moment to discuss absolutes-- I am currently getting my masters in Applied Mathematics. Math, for me, isn't about crunching numbers or solving equations, it's about logically deconstructing something and finding an absolute truth to a statement. Logic statements like P->Q ... etc.

    It was when I started to study mathematics and relearn the way I think about information, that I began to realize logical flaws (fallacies) in my understandings of both sexuality and gender, and on a larger scale, society's definitions on these things.

    I recently watched a TED talk on this issue, which I thought did a good job of discussing this very topic. Figure I'll post it as well.


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    @Xenia: +1 for TEDtalks.
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  • edited June 2014
    You'll have to make a more convincing argument than that one for me.
    I am going to restate my opinion in a bunch more ways:

    @Mephistoles This is the sentence that was you shifting responsibility on folks. I already provided links on why binarism is linked to white supremacy and colonialism, so the notion that I have more work to do is false. I can do more work, or I can do less work and delete all my posts. I can do whatever I want, and so can you. Only you can decide if you're convinced or not, and I can't do anything to force that hand. If you want to agree or disagree, I have no say despite whatever amount of work I do.

    Suggesting that you're willing to shift opinions based on a solid argument ignores the fact that nobody is ever obligated to change their opinion despite what they hear. Why do you think people hold so many misinformed opinions and beliefs despite evidence to the contrary? If your response is that I have something else to do, you're mistaken because (again) I don't have to do anything for you. Maybe you think you're "above" that, and if you are I'm ready to build a church and start worship because you transcended human existence.

    Only you can decide if you agree or not. I could put forth the most eloquent explanations or a flaming bag of poop as my argument and regardless of how factual it may or may not be, you still have 100% agency in deciding if you agree. Once more: I can't do anything to change your mind, and I don't have to keep trying endlessly to shift it because if you don't want to change your opinion then you won't.

    It would be very noble if your beliefs were always ready to shift based on new information, but your beliefs will only shift if you think the new information is useful, correct, and so on. If you decide it's not these things- even if it is true in someone else's life- then it's not useful to anyone to waste their breath on talking with you on that topic. Again, truths are subjective and contextual. There is not The One True Truth of Truthiness that everyone will immediately accept because damn, that One True Truth of Truthiness is just so perfectly articulated and explained. Maybe this isn't true in your life because you aren't on the losing end of settler colonialism, who knows?

    tl;dr I don't have to do shit even though you directly used that word. How you gonna say you didn't obligate someone?

    edit2add tl;dr #2: I already did the work I felt like I have to do, and that's why I stepped out of the conversation. That's part of why this rubbed me the wrong way because only I can decide what I have to do.
    I once killed a humgii, y'know.

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  • ArekaAreka Drifting in a sea of wenches' bosoms
    edited June 2014
    To be fair, you edited out the post in which you gave links and completely removed them from view. There is a void in the information you gave post-editing.

    I think that this is getting off topic and getting into weird passive/aggressive grounds with a debate on if someone will change their minds after asking for more information and a clear, information-backed case to consider.

    Edit: And the argument of "only you can decide if you'll change so whatever I say is pointless" is a cop out that completely deters discussing the topic at all, or furthering the sharing of ideas, views, and knowledge for communal progress.
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  • IshinIshin Retired Lurker Virginia
    Samp said:

    You'll have to make a more convincing argument than that one for me.
    I am going to restate my opinion in a bunch more ways:

    @Mephistoles This is the sentence that was you shifting responsibility on folks. 1. I already provided links on why binarism is linked to white supremacy and colonialism, so the notion that I have more work to do is false. I can do more work, or I can do less work and delete all my posts. I can do whatever I want, and so can you. Only you can decide if you're convinced or not, and I can't do anything to force that hand. If you want to agree or disagree, I have no say despite whatever amount of work I do.

    2. Suggesting that you're willing to shift opinions based on a solid argument ignores the fact that nobody is ever obligated to change their opinion despite what they hear. Why do you think people hold so many misinformed opinions and beliefs despite evidence to the contrary? If your response is that I have something else to do, you're mistaken because (again) I don't have to do anything for you. 3. Maybe you think you're "above" that, and if you are I'm ready to build a church and start worship because you transcended human existence.


    1. These were refuted by a couple of people who brought up legitimate and logical reasoning. So far you haven't even bothered to respond to them that I've seen, so it just seems to 'us'(I use the term loosely to refer to the spectators and those who refuted your claim) that you're stating your opinion and aren't willing to admit that you could be wrong or misinformed yourself.

    2. This is, in fact, @Mephistoles acting like an adult and saying that if you provided a legitimate reason and legitimate logic to back it, he would be willing to admit he was wrong and possibly even willing to change his own beliefs.

    3. This part somewhat offends me, because thus far I've been reading contentedly and listening to both sides of the argument, myself wondering if perhaps I'm not wrong and the odd man out for being so black-and-white on things. As I said to you before, to me, people are either male, or female, and I mean that as in how I perceive you. What I'm starting to see when you start saying things like 'I'm not required to give proof for my claim.' and the rest, is you acting like -you- are above -us-. In which case, perhaps it is we who should be getting ready to build a church and start worship, because -you- have transcended human existence.
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  • Areka said:

    To be fair, you edited out the post in which you gave links and completely removed them from view. There is a void in the information you gave post-editing.

    I think that this is getting off topic and getting into weird passive/aggressive grounds with a debate on if someone will change their minds after asking for more information and a clear, information-backed case to consider.

    Edit: And the argument of "only you can decide if you'll change so whatever I say is pointless" is a cop out that completely deters discussing the topic at all, or furthering the sharing of ideas, views, and knowledge for communal progress.

    I forgot I deleted it when I wrote that last post of mine XD
    I once killed a humgii, y'know.

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  • Also re:burden of proof etc., I think ultimately the big thing here is that this conversation has very heavy ramifications for SOME of the participants, but not all. The consequences of what's decided here will impact every participant differently. This conversation is exhausting for trans people (for example, Ishin saying they don't see things black-and-white but then describing how they only see gender as black-and-white puts trans people that bump into you in precarious places) and it involves defending the validity of being a non-binary person in lots of contexts. I do this conversation 24/7/365. I have to do it at work, when I buy groceries, when I go to get my DL renewed. It is CONSTANTLY coming up, and my concern isn't whether or not we all have good opinons or beliefs, but if I can get the basic respect to live my life. I've been fired from jobs, denied housing applications, and had government officials illegally change my IDs. For me, it's not about "getting" it, it's about survival.

    That's why I think it's fair to not feel obligated to provide all the arguments. When that work is put squarely on the shoulders of those most impacted by it, it is a neverending battle. Non-binary trans people can't convince anyone to respect them with arguments because (again) people can still chose to interpret non-binary people however they want. People all the time might intellectually "get" it, but it also doesn't mean it will integrated into how they treat people. If I am responsible for making someone treat me well (which I'm not because I deserve respect regardless of if I devote my time and energies to changing people's thoughts) then that's victim blaming. Essentially, this has 0% to do with belief systems. I couldn't care less if someone respects or acknowledges trans identities, so long as they can fake it and treat me with dignity through our encounters.
    I once killed a humgii, y'know.

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    Ishin
  • ArekaAreka Drifting in a sea of wenches' bosoms
    This is a discussion to help spread understanding, share ideas, feelings, and thoughts. It is from a topic that you initiated. Things decided here are for the individual, this is not the artifact thread. This is a philosophical discussion about the subject. We are in a broad spectrum of players and that comes with many differences - if you wish for yours to be acknowledged and accommodated, that needs to be done in turn without making everything more personal than it needs to be (even though that can definitely be tough when it comes to things that you are deeply personally/emotionally invested in!).

    I find it a bit frustrating that this effort is getting side-lined in what feel to me to be double standards. So far what I have read is:
    - We are ignorant and ill-informed if we do not agree with you or share your experience. Apparently this is being falsely equated to also not respecting you as a person or respecting your experience.
    - We need to agree with you and we should go do our research on our own until we do. We need to find evidence that has enough impact or meaning to us to have us reconsider our viewpoints so that they align with yours, though yours are not fully expressed beyond a handful of statements and references that get shut down with how exhausting it is.

    If Ishin sees gender as a black and white thing, that does not NEED to put trans people into a precarious place - it does not impact is view of them as a human being worthy of the respect and consideration he gives to anyone else.

    It's a really complex thing that will take some time for society to adjust to and to understand - like sexuality, like ethnicity, and so on.

    Not empathizing/not understanding does not equal not respecting another person as a person.

    Being outside of the perceived societal norm DOES come with exhausting work of having to educate and be patient (to a point) and explain en repeat, it is the proverbial equivelant of paving a new road - first the weeds need to be cleared out so there's a clearer view, rocks unearthed, and then the ground leveled so that the new can be built. The uninformed masses cannot do this work blindly, that is unreasonable and ineffective to what the work demands/requires.
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  • IshinIshin Retired Lurker Virginia
    I'm a 'he' and a 'him', thank you very much. Please refer to me as such. I'm not saying that what you're saying isn't reality, nor that it can't exist. If anything, I am denoting the -limitations- of my ability to perceive. Not that a trans person isn't a human being or anything even remotely similar. Now, you may not know me well, but almost everyone here, even @Alice, can attest to my arrogance, and admitting that I am limited in such a way grates on it - but it IS something that I'm willing to admit, because in this case it is true, whether or not I like it.

    As far as not caring if someone respects or acknowledges trans identities, and want them to 'fake' it and allow you to live with what is then fake 'dignity'...if you don't care enough to try to convince us, why should we care enough to even bother trying to see your side of things? It's like, 'If you don't care, why should we?'

    Like...maybe this is straw-man, or maybe it's unrelated, but I feel almost like I should point to the Civil Rights movement and then say something like 'I rest my case.'
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  • So I'm one of those casual readers who doesn't really care one way or the other, and isn't even close to vested enough in the situation to have an argument. As with sexual preference, what you identify your gender as truly holds very, very little importance to me beyond maybe a passing curiosity. If I make a mistake and call you an X and you want to be an O, or you think you're more of an I, you can tell me once and that'll be that. It's your life, bro (ette).

    What I will say is that from reading over this thread, you really come off as condescending and standoffish. You gave a vague sort of argument in the beginning that mostly just seemed like opinions, and then you wrote three or four essays after that could really be wrapped up in, "You're going to disagree with me, and I'm tired of explaining myself."

    Except that, man. You really put a lot of effort into saying that. Lots of big words and well composed sentences and such, and sometimes I even had to read a paragraph twice to realize you didn't actually -say- anything different.

    "I don't owe you shit, go convince yourself," is about as productive as putting your face on the sidewalk and running as fast as you can.

    Just saying. Carry on, fellers!
    IshinAryanne
  • Ishin said:

    Not that a trans person isn't a human being or anything even remotely similar.

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    I like think no one here would ever deny that Genders can either be looked at from a scientific, formulated mindset, or from a philosophic
    mindset. Neither are wrong, and it is a case-by-case. I've known many Transgenders; the first, Ally, who prefer to be She, HOWEVER, for the sake of professionality and general confidence in HER choice, can understand when people refer to Her as HIM. It is not a disrespect to her decision, and nor should it reflect on one person or another's personality badly. If I were to place myself in the (sometimes difficult) shoes of a Transgendered-turned-He, I would hope to be treated like a Person, and this includes no special treatment or accommodations. We are humans, in the end. There's a difference between getting irrationally offended at one person for a mistake, and expecting an entire community to meet your standards of morals...

    Tl;dr, No one should be treated with extra-care or walk on eggshells on this subject over something that seems to be as personal a decision as what underwear you chose for the day, as its not our job to get the wedgie out, and unfair to punish about _obvious_ unintentional misconceptions.

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  • LimLim
    edited June 2014
    Actually, @Samp‌ didn't initiate this thread - @Ingram‌ did, so I don't think she owes us to argue 'her side' of things.

    Personally, I have a mad level of respect for anyone who doesn't fit into the stereotypical gender binary, which includes transgenders, third genders, homosexuals, etc (tbh, I don't know enough to know the various distinctions). The kind of lives they lead are so much more difficult than people who fit in nicely to social norms that it's not even funny or fair. They're playing life on a much higher difficulty level, and not by choice.

    Some people (typically those who fit into normative standards) say it's a matter of choice, but I don't buy it. It makes no sense to continue to insist being different, especially because of the crazy levels of opposition that comes as a consequence. It would be so much 'easier' to fit in and not be judged/hated, etc., that I don't see how a person who says they are gay, lesbian or transgendered aren't so because they literally haven't a choice.

    For this reason, I don't even see where it falls to gender-normative people to decide what is or isn't. It's certainly fine to form a personal opinion - we are all entitled to our opinions - but if someone says they don't feel X gender even though they are X sex, I'd give them the benefit of doubt. I'm an outsider, what should my opinion matter at all, especially when they are the ones facing judgement and oppression on a daily basis?

    Any 'discussion' that we gender-normative people are having regarding this issue is an incredibly privileged one, and I don't believe it's our place to take any kind of a strong stance on it, and definitely not an uncharitable one that offers no benefit of doubt. They shouldn't have to convince us.
    Xenia
  • ArekaAreka Drifting in a sea of wenches' bosoms
    To clarify: It was initiated with Samp's thread regarding the gender-changing artifacts and the request to provide a neutral-gender option, from which this conversation split into this thread so that the philosophical discussion could occur independently of the one regarding artifact/coding changes.
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  • AarbrokAarbrok Breaking things...For Science San Diego, CA
    I'll make this real simple as I have seen good and bad poke its head out of the shell of a generally inquisitive discussion intended ...to I am not certain what.

    No one -ever- holds the right to classify another person, an individual, save for the person themself. There is no standard, for we are individuals, given the right in our own creation to be exactly what we desire to be.

    Just as it would be offensive for me to classify someone by race, religious affiliation, sexual orientation, philosophical preference, favorite monopoly piece, or any "binary" "multi-line code" "generalization" "classification" when it comes down to it, no one has the right to make that call save for the person, and to inquire, to pressure, to try and fit them into a social, psychological, metaphysical, physical, gas, solid, or liquid is absolutely asinine.

    There is one class you are permitted to put people in, and that is "an individual"

    So before I break out a pitchfork and torch, I want to remind everyone that this very discussion infringes on years of freedoms that we as a people have fought for, will fight for, and currently fight for. So before anyone carries this on further, I want you just to look yourself in the mirror, and be proud of being a healthy, individual. Regardless of your beliefs, preferences, and faiths.

    Next, when you look at someone else who you might feel different, remember in your head a time you were different, and think twice before passing that "classification" on who they are.
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  • @Areka‌: Yeah, I understand. I wasn't targeting you or anything with that statement :) Just thought to give a general reminder that Samp‌ doesn't owe anyone to justify anything about the gender binary.

    The only thing she needed to convince us of is whether reincarnation artifacts should allow for easy gender changes/whether we should have a third gender in-game. And that, while related the current discussion, is a decision that needs to be made independently with separate considerations. For instance, we have guns IRL - that doesn't mean we should have guns coded in-game as well.

    I guess there's also the bit about discussing anthropology, colonialism, imperialism, patriarchy, etc. And 'by right', since Samp raised it, she should support those claims with further evidence. I think it's completely well within anyone's rights to press for that. But I'm thinking - even if there aren't any historical cultures that aren't grounded in patriarchy - does that answer the wider question? Or is it more of a 'well technically, you're wrong' sort of small victory. Even historical records are contestable (were they biased and written by men?), so even there I don't think it's possible for us to find absolute truth.

    I suppose that there's 'being right', and there is 'being a human being'. My personal take is that since no one actually knows what's 'right' or 'wrong' in this matter (or if there is even a right or wrong), I'm personally willing not to press too hard if Samp's feeling too tired to continue. We can always continue without her, sharing our own experiences with one another, and trying to figure it out on our own. Maybe someone else will chime in, and we get to learn more.
    Alice
  • Samp said:


    It would be very noble if your beliefs were always ready to shift based on new information, but your beliefs will only shift if you think the new information is useful, correct, and so on. If you decide it's not these things- even if it is true in someone else's life- then it's not useful to anyone to waste their breath on talking with you on that topic. Again, truths are subjective and contextual. There is not The One True Truth of Truthiness that everyone will immediately accept because damn, that One True Truth of Truthiness is just so perfectly articulated and explained. Maybe this isn't true in your life because you aren't on the losing end of settler colonialism, who knows?

    This is something that actually bothers me a little bit. If the there really is not 'objective' truth about gender binary or other facts about gender, it really changes the meaning of what debate and discussion are. If there are only facts about gender that are context sensitive, true for individuals or cultures, then it destroys the idea of making intellectual progress because people can never actually learn objectively true things about gender.

    I'm still rather puzzled why colonialism, imperialism, or white supremacy have anything to do with gender binary. But, if there aren't really any objectively true facts about it, that's probably not entirely surprising.

    @Areka, and @Ishin, I think I like you guys.
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  • IngramIngram Alaska
    I think the general point here is that the world doesn't, and will never, operate on the idea everyone's right because they think it. Just because you have an opinion and perspective doesn't result it in being valid for anyone else. Or worth consideration. Or in some cases, respect, if it's ridiculous and so divorced from reality.

    When it comes to choices/beliefs/opinions on gender, as this topic is primarily on, I do believe it warrants respect and consideration. That's something that shouldn't be regarded in any other way. What I'm speaking on is entirely removed, and more whether a person should even be listened to if they opt to live on a world not based in reality, whatever the topic.
    Ishin
  • edited June 2014
    Samp said:

    Also re:burden of proof etc., I do this conversation 24/7/365. I have to do it at work, when I buy groceries, when I go to get my DL renewed. It is CONSTANTLY coming up, and my concern isn't whether or not we all have good opinons or beliefs, but if I can get the basic respect to live my life. I've been fired from jobs, denied housing applications, and had government officials illegally change my IDs. For me, it's not about "getting" it, it's about survival.

    That's why I think it's fair to not feel obligated to provide all the arguments. When that work is put squarely on the shoulders of those most impacted by it, it is a neverending battle.

    I've cropped it for space, but I'm really replying to the whole thing here.

    This entire post is a big, steamy pile of straw man. The evidence people were requesting had absolutely no bearing or ramifications on your personal identity. Unless your personal identity is entirely wrapped up in your idea that the gender-binary is a result of colonialism and imperialism that you have -that- argument with people 24/7/365.

    -THAT- is what was being requested and called for. Mephistoles never once made any comments about trans people, or the legitimacy of their identity. He replied to your vague, flippant argument early on that declared the gender binary was a result of colonialism and imperialism. You called him ill informed, he succinctly disputed that presumptive claim, and then insisted that you'll have to bring a better argument if you expect anyone to be convinced that what you are stating is fact.

    That is how philosophical arguments work. You provide evidence, and if it is actually compelling, you will sway people to your argument. Similarly, if you make wild claims -without- evidence, expect to be dismissed.

    EDIT: I had randomly typed "Even befo" at the top. not sure what happened there.

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  • AuresaeAuresae Minneapolis
    This is getting a little heated. Simmer down; I don't want to have to bring in the firepower.
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  • AshmerAshmer Barefoot Adventurer Life
    edited June 2014
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    Also, sorry for just jumping into the thread without reading the entire last bit about colonialism/imperialism and all that stuff.

    As far as gender binary itself is concerned, I found myself wondering recently if it's literally a matter of choice - and I don't mean that there isn't something fundamental about people, because I know people who were born with male parts that identified as a woman, and vice versa. The whole subject makes my head spin, honestly, 'cause there's so many different angles to come at it from, be it social construct, genetics, simple physicality, chemical science, neuro science, somatic science, myriad religious beliefs, et cetera et cetera, and everyone has differing opinions on it.

    Then, as we've seen here, there's the applicable and social implications of it. I live in Central Virginia right now, way out in the country, but it's a college town, too, so you get that random infusion of culture that comes with a university smack dab in the middle of your quaint Southern town. @Ishin can probably say more about it, but I know that at least here, there's an already-constructed idea of how a man should behave and how a woman should behave embedded in the general culture.

    Hell, there's some shit happening with the general idea of how men and women should behave anyway, but that's a WHOLE DIFFERENT topic.

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  • IshinIshin Retired Lurker Virginia
    Yeah, absolutely, @Ashmer. I was born and raised around here, and it's a lot different than a lot of places. It's caused some friction in some places, because coming up I was instilled with certain ideas, expectations, so on and so forth. Time in the military helped break some of those, and helped solidify some others. Out here, if you're 'different', we'll say, you can really get ostracized pretty hardcore, even from members of your own family, if you don't conform at least a little to what the social expectations are.

    For example, back when I was in high school, I was told by one parent that I'd basically get disowned if I dated a black girl. That was probably 14 years ago or so. Times change, and so do people, and so does their take on things. These days, my next to youngest sister dates a black guy, and that same parent is okay with it. So am I, he's a pretty cool dude. That same parent loves my girlfriend, who is half Mexican, to death.

    I think that with a lot of things, people just need to realize that demanding something and expecting it now just isn't feasible. It can take days, weeks, years, or even decades. I mean, the push for equality started how long ago, and it still isn't even recognized in some places. Just food for thought.
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  • MoireanMoirean Chairmander Portland
    I met a person the other day. It was a gorgeously androgynous woman who had been preparing to transition to a male - but she (he? I'm so sorry, I don't know which term is right in this context) had found out she was pregnant. I was just floored, trying to imagine, trying to put myself in her shoes as she described where she was at, where her body, at the very base level of function, was insisting - probably in the most emphatic way possible - that she was a female, while her head struggled to deal with the ramifications that had on her identity, as she had not considered herself a woman for years.
    Ishin
  • That's not his body insisting anything - it's other people insisting on interpreting his body that way. Having a uterus is not the same thing as being a woman, and being pregnant does not somehow negate his maleness. Even if it does postpone his medical transition, he's still a man.
    Ishin
  • There are only three 'sexes', biologically speaking, female, male, and intersex - and generally only one of them can get pregnant (intersex folks sometimes, of course, but not as consistently as female). So, it would certainly be negating his maleness, since functional males can not get pregnant. It might not negate his identification as a man, but I wouldn't think any less of him for having some internal struggle with his own identification at that point.

    I can only imagine the internal havoc that would cause to be a transgendered ftm that got pregnant right before a final surgical alteration. Poor guy :(

    Ishin
  • There is so much variation in the human body, though, between the chromosomes typically associated with sex, various phenotypical presentations of genitalia (1 in 10 live births have genitalia not consistent with how we typically imagine "boys'" or "girls'" genitals to look), internal reproductive organs, hormone levels, gender identity, etc, and frequently these criteria can manifest in contradiction to how we assume they will align. For example, folks with XY chromosomes but Müllerian structures (i.e. "female" internal reproductive organs). Phenotypic and genotypic sex are frequently not in alignment. I would again suggest the Intersex Society of North America's website for further information.

    We are always making a value judgment when we decide which characteristics to value over others in assigning sex to an individual. It is worth noting that most folks will never know for sure what sex chromosomes they possess, because it's not something doctors check unless there is a specific reason to (this frequently occurs when folks are having trouble conceiving). I propose that in light of that, it is more important to listen to others when they tell you what their gender is rather than pick and choose which characteristics you find most salient in categorizing another person.

    For example, if a cis woman needs to undergo a hysterectomy, it is not my place to say, "well, I know that you identify as a woman, but biologically speaking, you do not have a uterus, so you are a male now." Or for a more interesting, pop culture example, I would not tell Varys from Game of Thrones that he is no longer male because he is a eunuch.

    The checklists we use to categorize people by sex are just tools to help us try to understand a complex idea in simple terms. They by no means define reality, only attempt, but fail to fully describe it. Instead, let's respect people's identities and not coerce them into inadequate categories based on outdated ideas about sex and gender.
    AngweGhend
  • I should clarify, I'm not saying it wouldn't be a potentially upsetting or stressful situation for the guy. I mean unexpected pregnancies are, as a rule, generally unpleasant situations, even without the potential for dysphoria there. That said, plenty of trans guys have given birth and been just fine with doing so, and that does not make them any less of men.
  • HavenHaven World Burner Flight School
    This is pretty confusing. Are we talking gender roles or gender? o.o
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  • StrungStrung Halls of Hades
    Look up Bateman's principle and penis fencing before you cry about the gender binary or whatever we are calling it these days. As an alpha male I lol at things like binaries.

    Also, while all of these other losers were trying to bring quality, Amazon is like "look guys, a 3d phone" and people actually want to buy it. Wtf?
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  • What.
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