Lost or Missing People??

MacavityMacavity Member Posts: 788 ✭✭✭
edited March 2013 in OOC Chat
So I was wondering if anyone has heard from the person behind @Arania?  I got an IG OOC message that was not the best news, and for the purpose of not airing her business out here, I am going to leave it at that.  Outside of that I have not heard from her since and its been 20 days or so since she lastlogin and I am getting worried.  Anyone have an information on getting in contact with her?

This also got me thinking and wonder how many others that use to play that does not log in because something happened to them.  =(   

Thoughts?
“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,
Nothing is going to get better. It's not.” 
― Dr. Seuss, The Lorax

Veritas says, "Sorry for breaking your system Macavity."
Veritas says, "My boss fights crash Macavity's computer now."
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  • HaydynHaydyn Member Posts: 169 ✭✭✭
    I've often wondered about another player who my first character was close to. I guess it was almost 5 or so years ago and she evaporated into thin air as well. I was still new to the game, so I didn't really know her well enough OOC to know if she just quit or if something happened to her.
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  • EdhainEdhain Member Posts: 81 ✭✭✭
    It's very easy to lie on the internet. Even to fake your own death once you get tired of the lie and want to live another one. I agree with @Haven, because in addition to getting physically hurt by getting too close to someone shady online (the obvious danger), there's also the danger of trusting and caring about someone and then having them totally emotionally bomb you. 

    To the OP: Sorry, I don't know anything, but I hope she's OK.
  • EzalorEzalor Emperor D'baen CanadaMember Posts: 1,307 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited March 2013
    @Teani if it's the same person we're thinking of, trust me. It was purely for attention. Said person threw a BIG temper tantrum and told us all to unicorns off when we actually tried to get her RL help by contacting the Divine and stuff.
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  • EzraxEzrax Member Posts: 407 ✭✭✭
    This thread's taking a turn for the worst.
  • TeaniTeani Evening Sky SwedenMember Posts: 2,058 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @Ezalor: Nah, this was a young kid from Australia. He confessed eventually that it was just for attention and I told him there were far better ways to make that happen than to make someone feel bad half across the world for not being able to do something.

    As for the character in the first post, I don't know who that is, @Macavity. If the message sent to you was very serious (making you feel bad OOCly for worrying very much), you might want to send it over to support and ask them if they can get a respons in some way. I'm not saying it will work or that they will agree to do it, but it could be worth a shot.




  • ValenaeValenae Member Posts: 595 ✭✭✭✭
    edited March 2013
    I don't mean to sound paternalistic but I think a better way is to acknowledge it is as this: know that we're all people with feelings, yes, but we're also people with intentions. The difference between one discourse and another, for me, is to acknowledge that communication online is a 100% more fluid than, say, if you met them in person and had a beer. All you have is a view from no where. If you only speak to them in text you can never fully conceptualize the motives of a person or identify with their social location, which is pivotal in developing a connection. You never know the fullest extent of 'intention trading'. 

    tl;dr, I wouldn't get too attached unless your friendship/relationship/whatever social identifier you want to use moves to the 'next level', I dunno - just a thought. 

    But anyway - I don't know anything, sorry. :/ 


    "To be awkward or unkempt, to talk or move wrongly is to be a dangerous giant, a destroyer of worlds...any accurately improper move can poke through the thin sleeve of immediate reality." - Erving Goffman



  • TeaniTeani Evening Sky SwedenMember Posts: 2,058 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @Valenae: As I said, we're all different. Some connect faster than others. Some care more than they should. If everyone was capable of understanding that, things would be so much better.



  • MacavityMacavity Member Posts: 788 ✭✭✭
    Yeah this thread went in a direction I was not expecting.  heh  

    Just to make things a little clearer ...  I am talking about a friendship level and just simply worrying about someone in that way only.  Also I know people go poof because of things that happen in the game they are not happy with or because of life in general, but this person I was made aware that something did happen to them, as she explained to her sister how to log into the messages online and send my toon an OOC message saying what happened, but had very little details.  That was about 20 days ago and I have yet to hear anything since then, and of course I dont have a facebook or email for her either.  

    So yeah just worried in that aspect....  ya know?
    “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,
    Nothing is going to get better. It's not.” 
    ― Dr. Seuss, The Lorax

    Veritas says, "Sorry for breaking your system Macavity."
    Veritas says, "My boss fights crash Macavity's computer now."
  • EzalorEzalor Emperor D'baen CanadaMember Posts: 1,307 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Yeah shame. Very nice person. I called her the Chocolate Ironbeard and she adopted that as her title. Let us know if you find out anything too!
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  • KonnornKonnorn Member Posts: 271 ✭✭✭✭

    I think we all have had an experience when someone has "gone missing". We might find out what has happened, or we might never know. After a friend of mine went missing from the game, it took almost a month before I got a mail, explaining what had happened. It wasn't great news, but the end of the mail at least gave some hope. I'm really glad to have gotten the mail, to at least know what is going on.

     

    Sometimes people stop playing willingly, feeling a lot of pressure in the game, or feeling they are too attached. Sometimes something happens and they are unable to contact anyone and let them know what is going on and if they plan to come back. And sometimes, sad but true, people pass away and not everyone has family or friends who want to or are able to contact people in the game, or even know the game exists.

     

    When things like this happen, best thing to do is just to keep trying. In most cases, you will at least get some sort of respond, even if it might take some time. I hope your friend is okay though.

     

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