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Re: Thank you!
Thank you to Shadow for putting one hell of a fight for Orrery and winning it for the first time in a while. After this last fight, there were 20 (!) of you there and that wasn't including another half dozen people at least that are usual players/combatants!
It's been good, clean fun with no falling out (that I've seen). As frustrating as it is to be on the losing side, kudos to you guys for showing out and brawling hard.
Thank you also to the Spirit side who have showed out, in particular the host of newer folk that were allowing us to, at the very least, compete on relatively equal footing! You guys did a great job!
It's been good, clean fun with no falling out (that I've seen). As frustrating as it is to be on the losing side, kudos to you guys for showing out and brawling hard.
Thank you also to the Spirit side who have showed out, in particular the host of newer folk that were allowing us to, at the very least, compete on relatively equal footing! You guys did a great job!
Re: Aetolian Memes
Azami or Mazzion whenever they see a sect challenge.
defs up violently
Don't try to do milestone just after Howling.
defs up violently
Don't try to do milestone just after Howling.
Sanir
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Re: Fun facts: About your character!
This part made me cringe and immediately decide not to post about my character in this thread. Please. Do not use information picked up from the forums or anywhere outside the game when you play your character. Your character is not supposed to know that information.Axius said:
Share 'em here! Just be aware in offering this info, you may be offering implicit permission for people to come around and use some of these facts to interact with you.
Sharing information about stuff here should never be seen as giving permission to metagame.
Teani
10
Re: Missed Connections: Aetolians
And I just cursed about Missari and Atrapoema today to Mjoll for the part they played a long damn time back in a Spirean coup!Benedicto said:Hey, I'm MissariAnd I'm Atrapoema. I lived, unicorns.I've literally just sat and stared at my screen for about five minutes in shock.
How about that, huh?
Elene
8
Re: RL Struggles, Strife, and Sadnesses
I've already reached out to Zaila directly, but I'll follow suite of the theme of this post and show that we all go through similar things. Life throws curveballs all the time, and the last almost 10 years have been nothing but that for myself and my husband.
After my dad passed suddenly back in 2012, I moved my stepmom down to be closer to us. She was only in her 60s, but disabled due to back injuries and bad health choices. This made her depressed in the senior center she was in, and I ended up moving her into our house. She was the last 'parent' I had, so I wanted to try to make her life better. And she wasn't fully disabled, so she was able to get around with a walker and settle her own food.
But, there were always ups and downs. She would fall because she wouldn't properly take care of herself, and it was hard for us to get her back up. She was hospitalized several times, some more dire than others. Eventually, she started to hide how bad off she was, until it was too late and she went in for her final hospitalization. She tried to eat chicken that was too big for her to manage and it got lodged in her throat. That didn't fully get her, but the aspiration afterwards did. She passed only a few years ago now, but I still feel haunted by it every day when I see someone elderly or I hear elderly stories like some of the ones here. I could have been nicer, more helpful, more observant - and regret not spending more time with her.
She was there when Joe and I got pregnant with our first son, Oliver. At 20 weeks, my waters broke. He wasn't developed enough, even with injections, to survive and I already had an infection that would make things even more difficult. So, we made the tough decision to induce further to end the pregnancy. 2014, we mourned with family and planted a tree in the yard in memory of him. But, it took a long time to get over. And if I ever go look at the photos of him, it just brings it all back in again. But, we have Oswin who was born in 2015 and he's fantastic. We probably should have waited, if I'm honest about it, to not make ourselves feel like we were pushing into having another child - but it ended up working out. Do better than us and just take your time with that decision if you decide to make it.
Now, after the loss of my step-mom, my husband's parents slowly started to deteriorate. So within the last few years, he lost his mother and then later on his father. I think the watching of them slowly going downhill is much more difficult to handle than something sudden, but neither are good. With both you have regrets, frustrations, and pain - none less important than the other. As long as you can have some sort of support around you, it does make the blows get better eventually. Not immediately, but eventually.
Then, last year, we almost lost me. I had a DVT/PT really bad. Lots and in both sides of my lungs, remaining clots in my legs. All of this was because I was pregnant, in my late 30s, and went on a long flight that didn't allow for much movement. I thought I just had low oxygen when I went into the hospital for it, but found out how dire the situation was within a short time frame. I was hospitalized for a good while, getting myself prepared for twice daily shots at home. But while I was there, my 11 week pregnancy was advised to be putting additional risk on my life. It was either I carry on, doing shots, and still risk the chance that we could lose the child -and- me later on. Or, we save me now and terminate the pregnancy. Joe and I made the tough call to end it, just to be sure I'd be around for him and Oswin. We were advised, so long as I am obese and considering my age, we should not try for children again.
Since then, I've done everything I can to try to improve my health. As of 3/10 of last month, I had gastric sleeve surgery, to help with this. And, I'm on the right track to lose weight and at least not risk as serious of health complications again. I don't know if, once I lose the weight, we'll have the strength to try for another child or not. But, at least I am feeling better and able to actually spend time with my family again. I started out at 281, down to 241-ish. Yes, it's a permanent tool, but it is a tool. I haven't felt this great since I was in my 20s.
Anyways. With all that said, I know I don't get along with everyone perfectly - no one does - but I'm always willing to be a shoulder for someone going through a rough time. Every single one of you are important, and you should never have to go through pain/difficult times alone. If you need someone, just reach out.
After my dad passed suddenly back in 2012, I moved my stepmom down to be closer to us. She was only in her 60s, but disabled due to back injuries and bad health choices. This made her depressed in the senior center she was in, and I ended up moving her into our house. She was the last 'parent' I had, so I wanted to try to make her life better. And she wasn't fully disabled, so she was able to get around with a walker and settle her own food.
But, there were always ups and downs. She would fall because she wouldn't properly take care of herself, and it was hard for us to get her back up. She was hospitalized several times, some more dire than others. Eventually, she started to hide how bad off she was, until it was too late and she went in for her final hospitalization. She tried to eat chicken that was too big for her to manage and it got lodged in her throat. That didn't fully get her, but the aspiration afterwards did. She passed only a few years ago now, but I still feel haunted by it every day when I see someone elderly or I hear elderly stories like some of the ones here. I could have been nicer, more helpful, more observant - and regret not spending more time with her.
She was there when Joe and I got pregnant with our first son, Oliver. At 20 weeks, my waters broke. He wasn't developed enough, even with injections, to survive and I already had an infection that would make things even more difficult. So, we made the tough decision to induce further to end the pregnancy. 2014, we mourned with family and planted a tree in the yard in memory of him. But, it took a long time to get over. And if I ever go look at the photos of him, it just brings it all back in again. But, we have Oswin who was born in 2015 and he's fantastic. We probably should have waited, if I'm honest about it, to not make ourselves feel like we were pushing into having another child - but it ended up working out. Do better than us and just take your time with that decision if you decide to make it.
Now, after the loss of my step-mom, my husband's parents slowly started to deteriorate. So within the last few years, he lost his mother and then later on his father. I think the watching of them slowly going downhill is much more difficult to handle than something sudden, but neither are good. With both you have regrets, frustrations, and pain - none less important than the other. As long as you can have some sort of support around you, it does make the blows get better eventually. Not immediately, but eventually.
Then, last year, we almost lost me. I had a DVT/PT really bad. Lots and in both sides of my lungs, remaining clots in my legs. All of this was because I was pregnant, in my late 30s, and went on a long flight that didn't allow for much movement. I thought I just had low oxygen when I went into the hospital for it, but found out how dire the situation was within a short time frame. I was hospitalized for a good while, getting myself prepared for twice daily shots at home. But while I was there, my 11 week pregnancy was advised to be putting additional risk on my life. It was either I carry on, doing shots, and still risk the chance that we could lose the child -and- me later on. Or, we save me now and terminate the pregnancy. Joe and I made the tough call to end it, just to be sure I'd be around for him and Oswin. We were advised, so long as I am obese and considering my age, we should not try for children again.
Since then, I've done everything I can to try to improve my health. As of 3/10 of last month, I had gastric sleeve surgery, to help with this. And, I'm on the right track to lose weight and at least not risk as serious of health complications again. I don't know if, once I lose the weight, we'll have the strength to try for another child or not. But, at least I am feeling better and able to actually spend time with my family again. I started out at 281, down to 241-ish. Yes, it's a permanent tool, but it is a tool. I haven't felt this great since I was in my 20s.
Anyways. With all that said, I know I don't get along with everyone perfectly - no one does - but I'm always willing to be a shoulder for someone going through a rough time. Every single one of you are important, and you should never have to go through pain/difficult times alone. If you need someone, just reach out.
Agothaxl
11
Re: RL Struggles, Strife, and Sadnesses
This is ALWAYS difficult for me to read/hear as someone who had lost a baby late last year, because I hate to think there are others out there suffering. I'm going to be very honest from a woman's perspective (my husband didn't want to talk about it AT ALL, so I have no idea how men cope during this time 
) you probably won't feel much in terms of hormones for a week, but those following weeks will hit you really hard from my experience. Find a really good song (play it a million times... I liked Light On by Maggie Rogers), get ice cream, take up some good meditation..that's how I got into yoga/Pilates, lay around with your spouse, and whatever you do don't blame yourself even if it's really friggin' hard to do. Wish you all the best @Zaila and Mephi.
) you probably won't feel much in terms of hormones for a week, but those following weeks will hit you really hard from my experience. Find a really good song (play it a million times... I liked Light On by Maggie Rogers), get ice cream, take up some good meditation..that's how I got into yoga/Pilates, lay around with your spouse, and whatever you do don't blame yourself even if it's really friggin' hard to do. Wish you all the best @Zaila and Mephi.
Moxie
11
Re: RL Struggles, Strife, and Sadnesses
As someone who in their younger years did things on film to help pay their way through college, and in their older years became a more office-type professional, you are 100 percent in your rights to have that kind of material removed, unless you have signed it over as property in a contract.
The industry of this variety of entertainment exists as an industry because of -many- guidelines and laws that govern it.
At the end of the day, your body is your property, and only you have the express rights to it, and the choices it makes.
You can press charges, amature recordings are governed by the same, and what was done is illegal.
SEGUE:
I am really proud of this community for being a collection of diverse humans, and having a trust and willingness to share.
You all bring forth the best out of some of the worst situations, and in reviewing alot of this, it provides me insight and understanding to many of your lives. I too have struggled with many things, primarily who knew me when I played Aarbrok was addiction and alcoholism, then again taking a bunch of pills/uppers, chainsmoking, drinking was how I existed back then....in my twenties.
Now in my nearing the forties....I am paying back for alot of my bad decisions in the past, but I am making it through it one obstacle at a time. I am grateful for many of you, despite alot of our disagreements, or clashing of idealism and beliefs we may have had...at the end of the day you have all seen me as a human in my best and worst form. (Honestly...you guys have)
Now being clean for 7 years, experiencing a healthy lifestyle, striving to get through insecurity and anxiety.
I am grateful for you, despite the pains and anxieties that persist....we are in it together.
All your stories above show that we are human, we have faults, we have experienced pain....but we do it together.
So I suppose amidst all these trials we face together, let us be glad we have one another.
The industry of this variety of entertainment exists as an industry because of -many- guidelines and laws that govern it.
At the end of the day, your body is your property, and only you have the express rights to it, and the choices it makes.
You can press charges, amature recordings are governed by the same, and what was done is illegal.
SEGUE:
I am really proud of this community for being a collection of diverse humans, and having a trust and willingness to share.
You all bring forth the best out of some of the worst situations, and in reviewing alot of this, it provides me insight and understanding to many of your lives. I too have struggled with many things, primarily who knew me when I played Aarbrok was addiction and alcoholism, then again taking a bunch of pills/uppers, chainsmoking, drinking was how I existed back then....in my twenties.
Now in my nearing the forties....I am paying back for alot of my bad decisions in the past, but I am making it through it one obstacle at a time. I am grateful for many of you, despite alot of our disagreements, or clashing of idealism and beliefs we may have had...at the end of the day you have all seen me as a human in my best and worst form. (Honestly...you guys have)
Now being clean for 7 years, experiencing a healthy lifestyle, striving to get through insecurity and anxiety.
I am grateful for you, despite the pains and anxieties that persist....we are in it together.
All your stories above show that we are human, we have faults, we have experienced pain....but we do it together.
So I suppose amidst all these trials we face together, let us be glad we have one another.
Oonagh
10