I just wanted to chime in and say not everyone plays Aetolia that way. If you're interested and have the time, give RP another shot. You gotta navigate a little bit to find your audience but once you do, Aetolia can really shine.
In fact, around 12-15 years ago when I did try to be a little RPer, I became pretty disillusioned when I realized how people play Aetolia.