Could we have a change to esteem to allow it to be given anonymously? Coming from Midkemia, I assumed that was automatically the case and dropped a bunch on some people — then I received one in return and suddenly realised it wasn't. Whoops!
I think compliments tend to mean more if you don't know who they're coming from. If you do, they can be taken as a system of barter or social influence, whereby people may feel compelled to esteem people they know or have been given esteem from prior. Sort of like when you go to a party and someone says, 'I love your shoes!' but they're wearing freaking Crocs and then you don't know what to say, but you have to say something
, right? It could also cause esteem to be interpreted, or even intended, as a means of sucking up to a person.
Some people probably feel like they need to know who it comes from — but others don't. That's fair, which is why I propose that rather than having a blanket system where it's always anonymous (though I personally think that would be even better), it be configurable to allow people the option
of giving it anonymously, or even the option of only receiving it anonymously.
That said, making it anonymous for all would still allow people to append their name at the end if they so please, or send someone a tell saying, 'P.S., that esteem was from me, wink wink' — in MKO, people did this all the time.
Thanks in advance for consideration!
P.S.: To the people I have esteemed, or will esteem in future (because I've made a list) — I had no idea it wasn't a secret until just now.
I swear I wasn't trying to suck up!